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"Love Addiction"
ROCB/Relational Compulsive Behaviors

An obsession with love relationships, so-called love addiction can lead to many negative consequences. It can create serious problems in relationships with friends and family, create problems at work and lead to depression and anxiety. Some even develop addictions to deal with the negative feelings the consequences bring, especially during the time between relationships. In its worst form, it can lead to stalking, self-harm, violence or suicide.

Although there are differences between individuals, there are symptomatic behaviors that are more common. These include:

 

Feelings of worthlessness and/or emptiness when alone

 

Lacks a sense of meaning and path in life

 

Sees sexual attraction as love

 

Seeing romance as a great need rather than a desire 

 

Fall in love easily, quickly and/or often

 

Goes to great lengths to avoid being abandoned or rejected

 

A pattern of continuous dating or relationships

 

Often have very dramatic and intense relationships that tend to fizzle out quickly

 

Difficulties with trust in relationships

 

Has periods of depression and melancholy

 

Has other addictions or compulsive behaviors

 

Tends to deny problems in the relationship

 

Uses relationships to avoid emotional pain

 

Obsessing over finding love when you're not in a relationship

 

Tends to be overly involved or controlling in relationships

 

Need a relationship to feel happy and "whole"

 

Can't stand being alone or without a relationship for very long

 

Lacking a sense of being able to take care of yourself

 

Quickly becomes depressed or despairing when a relationship ends

 

Has difficulty distinguishing between desires and real needs

 

Confusing sex with love

 

Gives the appearance that a relationship is deep even if it doesn't look like that in reality

 

Below are links for those of you who want to know more about love addiction.. 

 

Co-dependency podcast about love addiction 

 

How do you become addicted to love? 

 

About being "needy"

Sanna Lundell and Ann Söderlund who have the podcast "Not your mother" talk about being a "Love Junkie"

 

You yourself decide when enough is enough!

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